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Blended Tribes A calm corner for intentional living, midlife reinvention, and using AI without losing yourself.

Last Tuesday, I had nothing scheduled from two in the afternoon onward.After about twenty, I caught myself fighting the ...
06/17/2026

Last Tuesday, I had nothing scheduled from two in the afternoon onward.

After about twenty, I caught myself fighting the impulse to fill it. Not because anything needed doing. Just because the empty time created its own quiet pressure.

Around forty minutes in, a problem I'd been stuck on for two weeks resolved itself.

The Stoics had a word for this: 'otium'. Idle time. The unscheduled hours where thinking that can't happen in a full calendar, finally gets done. Seneca wrote about protecting these hours deliberately, treating the empty afternoon the same way you'd treat a critical work block.

The full schedule looks productive. He thought it mostly wasn't.

I wrote about what the Stoic case for boredom actually looks like, why the gaps are where the real work gets done, and a simple one-block practice for people who know they need it but can't quite let themselves have it:

A defense of the empty afternoon

It started with a cabinet full of supplements I couldn't remember buying.Nine bottles in Panama. Some from Oregon. A few...
06/14/2026

It started with a cabinet full of supplements I couldn't remember buying.

Nine bottles in Panama. Some from Oregon. A few I'd been taking for years without being able to say what they were doing. When I finally threw them all out, I felt relief.

That moment started a list. Things I stopped buying, not because of a budget crunch, but because I ran the actual numbers and couldn't justify them. And found, without exception, that the absence was better than the purchase.

The list grew: streaming subscriptions I wasn't watching, books in a pile that had become furniture, small kitchen gadgets solving problems I don't have, clothes bought on sale because they were a deal rather than because I needed them.

None of these were expensive individually. Together, they added up to a number I didn't expect, and a weight I'd stopped noticing.

I wrote about the list, the calculation, and a simple one-category exercise for running the real math on your own:

The math nobody runs on subtraction

I had a business idea I'd been refining for six months. Every time I asked Claude about it, something useful came back, ...
06/10/2026

I had a business idea I'd been refining for six months. Every time I asked Claude about it, something useful came back, a sharper angle, a better structure, a sequence I hadn't considered.

The idea kept getting better. It also kept getting more certain.

I realized I was asking questions I already knew the answers to. I wasn't thinking with the tool. I was confirming with it. The AI had become a mirror, and I'd been nodding at my own reflection for months.

So I tried something different. I typed: "Tell me where this plan is weak. Don't validate what I'm doing. Assume I have blind spots and find them. Be the advisor who is willing to lose the client."

What came back wasn't comfortable. But it was useful in the way that mirrors usually aren't.

I wrote about what that conversation found, the Stoic practice it reminded me of, and the one prompt that changed how I use AI for anything I actually care about:

On using a thinking partner the way it actually works

There is a coffee conversation my wife and I had recently that I keep thinking about.No phones, no agenda. We were talki...
06/07/2026

There is a coffee conversation my wife and I had recently that I keep thinking about.

No phones, no agenda. We were talking about a formula we'd both been turning over: Desire + Non-Resistance = Desired outcome

The idea is that when you combine what you genuinely want with a willingness to release how it has to happen, things tend to find their way.

We were talking about it because it was true for both of us, in completely different parts of our lives.

Five years ago, that conversation wouldn't have happened. Our mornings used to run on schedules, lists, and things to coordinate. We were a good team. The conversations were mostly operational.

The table looks different now.

I wrote about what changed, what we actually bring to those conversations these days, and a question worth asking if you have a partner and you're waiting for things to slow down enough to have the real ones.

On conversations that finally have somewhere to go

Anybody headed to Maryland in October.....Tom Morello (formerly of Rage Against the Machine) is escalating his activism ...
06/05/2026

Anybody headed to Maryland in October.....Tom Morello (formerly of Rage Against the Machine) is escalating his activism by organizing the "Power to the People Festival," a major anti-Trump event scheduled for October 3, 2026, in Columbia, Maryland. The festival features a high-profile lineup including Bruce Springsteen, Foo Fighters, and Joan Baez, designed to counter the Trump administration's "Great American State Fair.

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I was two hours into a Panama residency forum that I had already read twice.Documents checked. Appointments scheduled. L...
06/03/2026

I was two hours into a Panama residency forum that I had already read twice.

Documents checked. Appointments scheduled. Lawyer hired. Everything that could be handled had been handled. And I was still scrolling through 2021 threads written by strangers, looking for the thing that might go wrong.

My wife walked in, saw the screen, and didn't say anything. She didn't have to.

The paperwork wasn't the problem.

There's a version of chronic vigilance that looks exactly like responsibility. The signal you've crossed into something else is when the anxiety doesn't lift after the task is done — when the next worry immediately takes its place.

I wrote about a short 5-question practice I use for moments like that one. It doesn't fix the fear. It names it. In my experience, that's most of the work.

What’s underneath the need to have everything solved

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