02/09/2026
Yesterday, I went to deliver a solar system to a young couple.
Before we even entered the house, the wife who came to receive us at the gate casually told me:
“Jon (not real name) is actually the man I wanted to marry. He wasn’t ready, so I married this guy. I don’t like my husband.” e shock me. I've never heard say such about her husband before.
Jon was the marketer who sold them the solar system. This mean she took her husband to buy from her ex without him knowing.
Then we entered.
Her husband was sitting there, overweight, legs stretched across a pot of noodles, arguing with something happening on TV:
“I wonder why they never keel this guy. This guy is a fool o!”
I almost understood her frustration.
But then I noticed something deeper.
Whenever her husband wasn’t looking, she would make disrespectful gestures at him, mock him and dismiss him right in front of us.
They’re young. No kids yet.
And I left that house thinking about something:
Never marry someone who is ashamed of you, disrespects you, or casually gives away your dignity in front of strangers. The bride is not yours if you can't groom her.
Marriage isn’t just about finding someone you love.
It is also about finding someone you can respect—and someone who is willing to grow with you.
Choose your spouse carefully.
