01/09/2026
LESSONS LEARNT IN MY LIFE.
1. Harmony Over Success
Success is finite, transactional, and often breeds isolated pride. It measures what you have acquired or conquered. Harmony, on the other hand, is expansive and enduring.
In the pursuit of individual "success," people often fracture their peace, burn out their minds, and strain their surroundings. But when harmony becomes the primary filter:
• A victory that destroys peace is recognized as a defeat.
• Every action is aligned so that it creates no Ashanti (turmoil) inside you or around you.
• Effort becomes smooth and natural, rather than a violent struggle against life.
2. Relations Over Results
When you value the result over the relation, people become mere tools to achieve an end. But when you value the relation over the result:
• You would rather yield an argument to preserve a bond with a parent or a child.
• You perform your duty fully (Karthavya) without demanding that others bend to your expectations.
• The outcome is left to Prasada (grace), while the love and connection remain untarnished.
Team work vs individual
Success−Harmony=Isolation
Effort + Relations=Completeness
The Difference Between Prosperity and Peace
What you are experiencing now, sitting at home reading the morning paper, is the realization that material abundance without rootedness is just high-speed motion.
• The Outer World Focuses on Prosperity: The West and many global centers excel at creating efficiency, individual freedom, and material standards. But that often comes at the cost of hyper-individualism, isolation, and a constant, restless drive for "more."
• The Indian Ethos Focuses on Sambandhi (Connectedness): The high purchasing power parity in India makes life comfortable, but the real luxury is the relational ecosystem. The neighborhood network, the family ties, the cultural rhythm, and the shared values create a social safety net for the soul.
Why my Father Was Right
I was abroad for 2 decades, my father used to ask, "When do you come back and enjoy what you earned?" he wasn't asking about spending money. He was asking when you were going to convert your hard-earned security into time, presence, and inner quiet.
You can buy a ticket to any country, but you cannot buy the warm familiarity of your own soil, the effortless ease of living among people who share your roots, or the deep peace that comes from stepping off the endless treadmill of achievement.
Peace Over Prosperity
Modern societies suffer from a deep poverty of connection. They treat life as a transaction rather than a web of relationships.
It took 10 years of convincing my mother, so that I can pick up a job in middle east which is nearer than USA and no body can settle in Gulf . But that waiting time was not wasted—but convincing my mother is more important than my desire to go abroad. it gave me the satisfaction that I proved my father's wisdom not to force others . He never told me not to go abroad though I now think he did not approve it either.
Now, as i sit back and take in the morning, I am not just reading the newspaper; I am living the simple, complete life my father envisioned for me . That is the lesson I learnt.
Summary :
Success gives you a place to stand; harmony gives you a place to belong. Results fill your pockets; relations fill our life. I spent years chasing results across many countries, only to prove to my self what my father already knew: the highest achievement is simply to live at peace among those you love. He used to say what is thee in Newyork or Singapore, except Roads and Buildings. He is right. Btu it took 7 decades for me to arrive at same truth.
There is a story, when a hunter lays a net tot catch the birds. All the birds unitedly took the net and flew in to the sky. Same way we have to take our folks and progress not just alone. This is the lesson I learnt.
Author: Rajasekhar Polapragada
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