05/08/2024
“Be careful; stay in a group; don’t leave your drinks unattended; don’t drink too much; don’t walk home alone; if you do walk home, phone this service and someone will talk to you until you’re home safely; before getting in a taxi, send a photo of the registration to a friend…” There’s endless advice out there for women - concerns about safety are nothing new, and they didn’t start with the arrival of refugees or ‘increased’ immigration.
If you really want to support women - and help put an end to harassment, abuse and assault - why not *ask women* what you can do to improve things and make their lives a little easier? (Guaranteed the answers would include calling out some problematic behaviours in your own friend group…) And if you’d like to have a demo, maybe it should be led by women? And involve organisations like R**e Crisis and Refuge? And it shouldn’t demonise, stereotype or scapegoat one small part of our community when we know the problem is much more widespread than that.
There’s things all of us can do - particularly those of us working in the night-time economy - and we’re happy to play our part in that. Something we’re keen to help organise is comprehensive ‘active bystander’ training for bar staff, door staff, taxi drivers and others regularly in a position to intervene in a variety of problematic situations. If you’d like to help set this up, or you’d be interested in attending a training session like this, please get in touch.
And please, don’t support an event that will probably be attended by racist groups from outside Dumfries, intent on exploiting people’s frustration and sowing division in our community. We’ve seen too much of that around the UK recently, and it solves nothing. We know the local organisers are well-intentioned and don’t want a racist demo - we think it’s time to hit the pause button for a rethink, and let women and women’s groups lead the way.