08/09/2026
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AITAH for lying about my age to my “sugar daddies”?
Hi!
I’m 41. I’m very fit and healthy and people probably consider me attractive. I have never had children either. I’m dark skinned too so my age doesn’t really show and people think I’m in my late teen/early 20.
I fell on hard times about 4 years ago when I got burnout and quit my high paying job. My bills and mortgage didn’t go away however and since I was used to “higher standard” I started “dating” older rich men. The thing is that they thought that I was 21 when I actually was in my late 30’s. I mostly dated white men which makes it harder for them to guess my real age because I’m of a different ethnicity.
Now I have started working again after several years of treatment and my new job doesn’t pay as much (still high, around 80K) but it was better for my mental and physical health because it’s not as demanding (my previous job was in a leading position with more responsibilities)
I still have a few “clients” they all believe Im 21-25. They’re very happy with me. AITAH for lying about my age when I know these men are looking for younger girls to spoil? I truly believe these men aren’t looking for someone that looks youthful but they’re fixated with the actual age. Some of them are not many years older. One is 45.
Edit:
Thank you for responding, I didn’t realize it would be this many but the general consensus is that I’m NTA. Thank you for everything and have a great...